What Not to Say During Sorority Rush Week

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Sorority rush week, one of my favorite times of the year. For me and my chapter it means finding and choosing the best women to carry on our legacy here at my school. We want the best of the best girls, someone well rounded, positive, smart, sweet, and can hold her self to a higher standard. Sounds pretty hard to be right? No one is perfect and we surely know that, trust me we aren’t either! But during sorority rush week it’s highly important to stray away from certain topics so as not to offend, up set, or turn anyone away from you, so let’s talk about what’s not okay to say during sorority rush week.

  1. Boys. It’s okay if you’ve had a boyfriend for 4 years and you love him a lot, but the woman you’re talking to doesn’t want to know about him she wants to know more about you! Same goes for those of you who are a little more boy crazy, it’s not appropriate to ask sororities which fraternity men they hang out with the most or something along those lines, trust me you’ll get the chance to meet plenty of boys once you’re in greek life.
  2. Money. Yes it’s important to know pricing for the sorority you wish to join, however during a recruitment conversation is not the time to ask it. Most will post that type of information in a packet, booklet, or on their website.
  3. Politics/religion. This one should be a no brainer, because you don’t want to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and offend them. That won’t be a good time for either of you.
  4. Partying. Yes a joining a sorority means you’re joining a social organization, some of the members choose to enjoy their free time at parties or get togethers, but not everyone is into that scene. So stray away from party topics to avoid coming off as someone only interested in sororities for the parties.
  5. Negative Topics. This can get pretty broad but stay away from topics like bad grades, a horrible breakup, a girl you don’t like, bad mouthing other sororities, how you’re broke, etc.

Overall I suggest trying to get to know the woman you’re talking to, try to connect with her on a personal level so you too can get more out of her and what her organization has to offer. I know this may seem like a lot of things that are off limits but if you can remember to just keep things positive and make sure to present your self in the best light you won’t have any problems finding the right sorority for you.

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Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Time Management Tips for College Students

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Classes, organizations, work, friends, sleep, and working out?! How does one balance all of these things, it seems almost impossible to get everything done in a day with so much going on. Take it from me when I say time management is essential to any college student. It will help you manage your time efficiently by getting the most done in one day.

Here are my tips I use to keep myself organized and hopefully will help you as well.

 

  1. Actually use your planner. Anyone can have a planner and write down dates and times for events but unless you’re looking back at it and editing things and referring to it, then it won’t be of any use. I live for my planner and without it lord knows how many things I’d miss.
  2. Use an efficiency calendar. Something new I’ve been using to keep myself on track and getting the most out of my days is my efficiency calendar. I do this weekly and sit down and plan out my week hour by hour. Of course some things change, but for the most part it remains. This is a great way to see when you have extra hours in your day where you could fit in extra studying, working out, catching up with a friend, etc. Here is a peek at my week.

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As you can see I schedule every hour of my day to include something important. There are days where I don’t have as much to do, which is fine because I do like to have some free time to do things that make me happy like Netflix, pampering nights, etc.

I also schedule in everything from blogging, classes, studying, meals, sorority events, etc.

3. Color Code. Even if you don’t use an efficiency calendar I suggest color coding your planner so that you know what events are for what class, organization, etc.

4. Sync your calendars on all mobile devices. It’s great to have you calendar updated on your computer and your phone so that at a glance you can see and remind yourself of any events that are coming up that may be very important to you.

 

Time management doesn’t have to be some huge task to get yourself organized, but choosing one or two of these tips and implementing them into your life could help organize yourself and your time. Then you’ll be on your way to being a more productive and time efficient person.

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Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Being A Leader in Your Sorority

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One thing I’ve always encouraged and pushed people to do is to get involved and take on a leadership role in their sorority or organization. I believe it’s  an awesome way to learn useful skills that you’ll need when you’re in the adult world working. After taking on several smaller positions in my chapter I decided to run for a council position, where I am now our Vice President of Membership Education. With this title comes a lot of responsibility, hard work, and long days, but in the end it’s made me a strong leader, sister, woman, and student. So now I’m going to tell you why YOU should be a leader in your sorority.

 

What You Should Know:

Holding a leadership position can first be a big time commitment, depending on the position that is. Smaller positions are better for those of you who want to take the initiative and be involved while still having time for other things.

There will be criticism, and you will probably get stressed out and upset at some point, but don’t let that ruin it for you! You’re making a difference in your chapter and you can’t always please everyone! So smile and move on because one persons opinion doesn’t mean everything and you’re probably doing a killer job anyways!

You will have to sacrifice some things. By this I mean sleep, time with your boyfriend, and some times just free time. Honestly it can be tough to turn all these things down when you have a huge task at hand, but once you see the results it’s totally worth it.

 

How To Do It:

So you’ve decided you can handle the stress and task now let’s get into how you go about being a leader. Most sororities have several smaller positions and large ones as well! So take it from me and start somewhere small. I took on three small positions my freshman year in Kappa Delta. It was a great way to learn what areas I wanted to really work in and I met a ton of sisters and learned a lot about my leadership style.

After holding smaller positions and doing them successfully run for a larger position for example a council seat or executive position. All sororities have this and they are the main women in charge of large portions of the chapters events, PR, membership, finances, and more!

Maybe you want to hold a position on your Panhllenic council, make sure to have some experience under your belt and know that you’ll have enough time!

At some point you may have to give a speech for why you should be chosen, my tips for those are to stand up tall, speak loudly and with confidence, and plan your speech ahead of time and practice practice practice. People love strong confident people to be leaders of their organization! Just believe in yourself!

Talk to girls who hold large positions and get to know their duties, tasks, and how things work. This will be a great way to figure out which position is for you!

Get involved where ever you can! That’s being a leader!

 

How to Manage Your Time:

With being a leader comes meetings, scheduling, events, planning, and more and it’s crucial to plan out your days and time efficiently so everything is getting done. You’ve probably heard this a thousand times but don’t procrastinate. The sooner you start on your project or event planning the smoother it will go!

Keep a planner with all of your dates and times and schedule in time for planning or anything that deals with your leadership position duties!

Make time for fun things though too!

 

 

Overall being a leader in a sorority will teach you a lot about your self and what type of person you truly are. In turn you’ll also learn a lot about others. Just remember that as a leader people are looking to you for answers and have expectations so be the best role model and figure for them and you’ll do an awesome job! Don’t forget to be confident in your self and get involved in however you can. You don’t always have to have a title to be a leader.

Have more tips you want to include, leave them in the comments below!

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Sorority Rush Week: Makeup Tips & Tricks

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Most of us spend hours preparing the perfect outfit for sorority rush week and tend to forget about another important aspect of looking perfect for these nights, which is makeup! Knowing how to apply makeup properly and just the right amount can really brighten up your face and make you look your best. And when you look your best, you’ll be feeling your best. So let’s get into the tips and tricks to help you look your best during sorority rush week.

What Makeup Should You Wear:

Light foundation: Enough to cover any imperfections and even your skin tone out.

Concealer: Under your eyes and on any blemishes that need to be covered.

Powder: To give your face that matte finish without shine.

Bronzer: For contouring and adding color to your face.

Highlight: To highlight your cheek bones and open your eyes.

Blush: To add color to your cheeks and make you look fresh faced.

Eyeshadow: To add depth to your eyes and create a soft look.

Eyeliner: To make your eyes pop

Mascara: for opening your eyes up and looking away and refreshed.

 

Tips:

Blend out foundation around the neck and jawline and make sure that the color matches your skin tone perfectly. Go easy on any powder so that your face doesn’t look caked on. Don’t over do the bronzer or highlight, it should give a little depth to your face but not look so harsh. Concealer should be lighter than your foundation, but not too much. Don’t over do the eyes with dark eyeshadow colors and bright colors, choose natural browns and creams for the best look. Save the winged eyeliner for night outs and stick to natural eyeliner such as brown or black if needed. Waterproof mascara is the best so it won’t smudge and get under your eyes and on your eyelids. Be careful when applying mascara so that it doesn’t clump to much, try taking an old mascara wand and combing through them when you’re finished.

 

Makeup to Avoid:

The wrong colored foundation, bright lipstick colors like purple or green, orange bronzer is a no go, hold off on the glitter, and any harsh eyeshadow colors like blue, purple, red, etc.

 

Preference Night:

Preference night calls for a more serious look and feel to your outfit. Adding in a few darker eyeshadow colors is acceptable just to add more depth to your eyes, but a dark smokey look is still not ideal. Adding a slightly darker lip color is a nice change to your look, just apply it properly with a lip liner and make sure it looks nice with your skin tone.

 

I hope these makeup tips and tricks for sorority rush week made it easier for your to plan your complete look. Having the right makeup can completely change your face and look and will make all the difference in sorority recruitment.

Don’t forget to check out my what to wear for sorority rush week posts for the perfect outfits!

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Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Choosing the Right Sorority

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Choosing the right sorority for you can be a little daunting and tough with so many good options out there! Each sorority offers so many different things to it’s members and finding the one that best matches with your personality can be difficult if you don’t know what to look for. Lucky for you I’ve broken it down into 4 simple questions to ask your self to help you choose the right sorority.

1. Do their values align with yours? Most sororities are committed to different things such as high grades, leadership experience, confidence, and more. You’ll want to take a look at their expectations for their members and see if you could hold your self to that standard. Don’t forget to take into consideration a sororities religious beliefs since most are centered around a certain faith.

2. Do you like the image that they give off? Could you see your self fitting into that image? If yes then that’s another thing to check off your list. It’s important to find a sorority with the image you want to perceive because once you join the sad and unfortunate truth is that people will group you in with that image and expect you to be like that which could be bad or good.

3. Do you like their reputation? Reputation is important when it comes to picking the sorority you want. Certain sororities are known for certain things on campus and it’s up to you to decide which you’d like to be a part of. People will begin to associate you with that reputation once you are a part of that sorority, so choose wisely.

4. Do you see your self fitting in/ do you feel comfortable here? I knew I wanted Kappa Delta each night because I felt comfortable talking to any girl I was matched with and they always made me feel welcome. You can just tell when you feel comfy in a certain place and I certainly did here. I could talk to the girls about anything and some I felt like were already my friends. You’ll know the feeling by preference night, I promise.

I hope these 4 simple questions will make your decision on choosing the right sorority an easy one. It can be tough when you’re faced with so many options and you’ve heard and seen so many different things. One last piece of advice is listen to your heart and go with what feels right and don’t force a sorority on yourself just because of who and what they are. Go where you feel at home!

Not sure how to prepare for sorority rush week? Check out my new Youtube video all about it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kIlTL_63wG8

Have more sorority related questions? E-mail me at [email protected]

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

11 Things No One Told me About Sorority Recruitment

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Sorority recruitment is right around the corner. Maybe you feel prepared, maybe you’re so nervous you can’t stop thinking about it. Either way I’m here to help you prepare yourself for what is to come. I’ve decided today to share with you all 11 things no one told me about sorority recruitment that would have made all the difference during those long and exciting nights.

1. You’re bound to be dropped by a house you love. No it won’t be the end of the world, and yes you will still find the house you belong in. Try not to get too upset because there are plenty of other girls out there waiting to talk to you and get to know you!
2. Be nice to those girls in your recruitment group. Some will end up your sisters and others you’ll see all the time. Having these friends will make recruitment week more fun and less stressful, you’ll have girls to plan outfits with and hang out during the weeks prior to recruitment. Make friends now and you’ll be set for years to come.
3. Plan your outfits ahead of time. It can be stressful, but with all of your outfits planned you won’t have to think twice about what shoes to wear with what dress and so on the night of recruitment. Read my articles about what to wear during sorority recruitment week to help you brainstorm ideas!
4. Read my sorority rush week essentials so you’ll know exactly what to put in your purse during this week! It will save you a lot of time and effort.
5. Research the sororities before recruitment so you have a little background on each and you can focus on deeper questions plus you’ll look more interested if you already know more about them. Check their websites, instagram, tumblr, Facebook, and more!
6. Break in your new heels and flats! No one wants be uncomfortable the entire recruitment night. Trust blisters are no fun either!
7. Don’t forget to eat!!! You don’t want to pass out during one of the parties or feel sick when talking to the house you love the most!
8. Eye contact. If you want to stand  out make eye contact with everyone you talk to. It makes other feel important and you’ll be focusing on the conversation and not other things.
9. Don’t mention boys, alcohol, or partying!
10. Don’t act like someone you’re not. You don’t want to be a part of an organization of people you have to pretend to be like. You won’t have fun and you’ll be too stressed out all of the time
11. Take advantage of your Sorority Recruitment Counselors, they are there to help you and they have a lot of information and knowledge to help you make your decision.
I hope that these 11 things no one told me about sorority recruitment help you to prepare yourself and put yourself out there during recruitment week. I wish you all the best of luck during your recruitment week!
Have more questions about sorority recruitment in general? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]
Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Bid Day: What to Expect

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Can you believe it?! It’s finally bid day! You’ve survived the long nights of sorority recruitment and today is your bid day! You’re probably too nervous and excited to think about anything else, trust me I was like that too! First let me say congratulations and secondly let me say that today is the day your life will change. Many people don’t understand the positive impact that sororities have on a college woman’s life, but that’s simply because they’ve never been a part of it. You’re finally going to be a part of an organization bigger than yourself! You’ll grow stronger, smarter, more confident, and positive. You’ll gain leadership skills, community experience, and time management. Welcome to the wonderful life that is sorority life!

First let me say that bid day is different at each school, so pay attention to rules, locations, times, attire, etc. for you bid day!

Most schools require all new members to meet in a central location where you will either A. Open up your bid and run to your sorority right there or B. Open your bid and run to your new sorority house. When you get to this central location meet up with the girls you made friends with during recruitment, talk and laugh to ease your nerves and blow off some time. Take groups pictures, pictures with your Rho Gamma or SRC or whatever you call them to have for memories!

You’ll probably be told to hold your card behind your back so there is no peaking and then they will blow a whistle and everyone rushes to open them at the same time. Take your time to actually read your card so that you can make sure you get the right house!

At this point you’ll probably be too excited for words and off and running towards you new home!!! YAY! Be extremely careful though! DO NOT TRIP! I promise they will love you just as much if you’re the second, third, or last girl there! I suggest finding girls you talked to during recruitment first, they’ll probably remember you and you will already have a connection. Grab your bid day goodies and head to your bid day festivities!

As for clothing I always suggest a few things so that you’ll look great in any bid day attire given to you. Denim shorts, can be any style you’d like. I personally love the new faded, ripped, and frayed ones! Wear a camisole or tank top for easy changing right on the spot. Chances are there will be boys around and that’s weird to change in front of them. Strapless bra so that you’re not worried about straps hanging out! And shoes that you can easily run in, doesn’t have to tennis shoes, just something easy for you to run to your new home in!

Lastly I suggest doing your hair and makeup because trust me you will be taking loads of pictures and you’ll look back on these forever!

Once you’ve reached your new home and you’re off to celebrate don’t forget to really soak it up. Talk to girls you’ve never spoken to, play games to interact with other people, take so many pictures you don’t know what to do with them and just put yourself out there! Bid day is meant to help you get to know all your new sisters so don’t be afraid to talk to them and ask them questions or just eat with them! They are all excited you’re there and remember they chose you!

Once again congratulations on your new home! I’m proud of you and so happy for you. Your life is about to change for the better and it all begins with today, bid day!

Good luck!

Have more sorority related questions, e-mail me at [email protected]

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

What to Wear During Sorority Rush: Preference Night

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For those of you who don’t know, preference night is the last night of sorority rush week. This night is when each sorority will share with you a part of their ritual and chapter. Focus on what each sorority is saying during this night because by the end of it you will be choosing your future home. You may cry, you may laugh, but I promise you that you will feel a connection to at least one chapter.

The night of my preference round I went in the first sorority more nervous than ever, the ceremonies were touching and I thought I knew my decision. Before walking into the next sorority, Kappa Delta, I felt calm and relaxed. As soon as I sat down to talk to a member I felt at ease. Their ceremonies began and I found my self crying in my sit as a listened to them sing Never Alone. I had goosebumps running up my arms and I felt like I finally found the place where I belonged.

Today I will share with you three more outfits to help you decide what to wear on your preference night. This night is special so most schools require a cocktail type dress or something similar. You may even be instructed to wear a black or white dress, either way pay attention to your school’s rules before choosing this outfit.

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Outfit Number 1:

LBD (little black dresses) are a classic when it comes to preference night. They are stylish, flattering, and stunning. When choosing a black dress find one that has an element that stands out from the others. For example, this dress has a lovely lace neckline making it more feminine and delicate looking. Don’t over do a dress with big accessories, your jewelry should be kept to a minimum and simple. As for heels I suggest a pair that you are comfortable walking in and don’t hurt your feet. And please don’t wear 6 inch heels that make you look like you just came form the strip club, it’s not cute.

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Outfit Number 2:

During preference night you should not be wearing pants or rompers or shorts, dresses are the only thing I recommend wearing. Hence why I have chosen three dresses for you today! If you choose to go with a colorful dress I suggest keeping cut and fit in mind. You will want a dress that flatters your figure, not a tight fitting club dress or one with a super low cleavage line. These nude heels here are the perfect pair of heels for any outfit. Steve Madden sells a pair while stores like Target have great knock offs for a better price! Add a few accessories to spruce up a plain dress and you’re set for the night!

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Outfit Number 3:

Last but certainly not least, my favorite outfit choice. Although the neckline on this dress is lower than the other two it is still classy and simple without being trashy. If it’s too low for you, try finding a cute bandeau to throw underneath it! I paired this dress with flats for those of you who may be tall like my self or if you’re just not comfortable in heels. Just make sure your flats are broken in before this night so you won’t be left with blisters!

 

When choosing your preference dress I suggest going with a more conservative piece. These dresses can be found anywhere from Target, Nordstrom, or even a local boutique. Shop around to find the best fit and style on your body type. Don’t forget to choose comfy shoes for walking, plus you’ll be more confident if you’re not focused on your feet hurting all night!

Good luck on your preference night, only 1 more day till bid day!

Have more questions about greek life, rushing, college, or anything else? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

What to Wear: Sorority Rush Week Day 3

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Sorority rush week is almost over! In just two short days you’ll be running home to your new sorority, your future best friends and bridesmaids. Pretty exciting huh? Now that it’s the third day of rush week you may be a little lost on what to wear, how dressy your outfits should be? What outfits aren’t acceptable? No worries, because I’ve created three perfect outfits for the third day of sorority rush week!

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Outfit Number One:

On the third day you’ll be visiting less houses and sorority members will be looking for something in each PNM that makes them stand out from the rest. Wearing a bright colored dress will make it easy for someone to remember you and they’ll be more likely to remember why they love you so much! Pair a bright dress with a pair of simple and comfortable wedges. Adding a few accessories is ideal, just remember less is more.

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Outfit Number 2:

Staying with dresses I chose this yellow shift dress which is bright and stylish. Shift dresses are the perfect outfit of choice for rush week day three. Shift dresses are stylish and flattering and can be found in several stores now a days for decent prices! Check your local boutiques for cute patterns and styles that describe you. A few cute accessories are key for dressing up a simple dress. I love House of Harlow necklaces and Kendra Scott personally! P.S, those adorable wedges are from Tory Burch, I’ve seen them everywhere lately and can’t wait to get my hands on them.

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Outfit Number Three:

Depending on your school’s greek life you may have more strict rules for what you have to wear on day three, this is why I have included a dressier version for those of you that this applies to. A simple a-line dress is flattering on everyone and is still stylish. I couldn’t help but gush over the adorable pattern on this dress! Pairing an a-line dress with a pair of nude or black heels is the perfect way to dress up any dress. They add a more sophisticated and classy look. Again we are sticking with minimal accessories so as not to over do.

 

During day three of sorority rush week expect to be having more serious conversations and longer conversations at that. Now is the time to really get to know the sorority and what they are truly about and their beliefs. If you see someone in a party you remember talking to during a previous night don’t be afraid to wave and acknowledge them, it lets them know that you remember them and it will leave a great impression! Refrain from sandals, rompers, and shorts during the third day of sorority rush week. You should be wearing more business like or dressier clothing pieces.

Good luck on your third night of rush week, I know you’ll kill it!

Have more questions about sorority rush week or college in general? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

 

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

What To Wear During Rush: Day 2 Outfits

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Welcome to sorority rush week day 2, you’ll be expected to dress slightly dressier, however I would still stay away from heels and cocktail type dresses. Depending on your school you may be attending skits, philanthropy night, or history night. Any which way, these three outfit choices should make your rush week easier by breaking down what you should be wearing.

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Outfit Number 1:

Pairing a casual skirt with a nice blouse can be an easy yet effortless look. It is perfect for those of you who may be attending house skits or walking to and from houses. Pairing this outfit with some simple accessories such as a gold bar necklace and Kendra Scott earrings can really spruce up the look. Wearing a cute pair of flats is another way to make this simple outfit slightly dressier.

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Outfit Number 2:

Can you tell I like rompers? They are just so easy and cute for any occasion! This one shown is perfect for rush week night 2, it’s simple yet not to dressy. Pairing it with Jack Rogers sandals and a statement necklace really adds to the look. Wearing a bright colored romper will really help you stand out among other PNMs and make it easier for people to remember you!

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Outfit Number 3:

Although this outfit has a shift dress, it is still casual yet slightly dressier. It’s perfect for those of you who are required to dress up a little but more on night two. Shift dresses of any kind would be a great item to wear during night 2 or even 3! Throwing on a pair of cute sandals and minimal accessories really adds to the look. Tassle necklaces are really popular right now, check Etsy and Forever21 for cute ones!

 

Night two of sorority rush week is slightly more dressier than night one. Take into account your school and how much walking and sitting you will be doing during the day to decide which outfit is best for you. When choosing skirts, dresses, or rompers remember to make sure they aren’t too short! I hope this day two of sorority rush week really helped you figure out what to wear and now you can head out shopping!

Have more questions about sorority rush week or college? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

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