How To Be The Best Sorority Big


Oh yeah, it’s about that time of year again, no I don’t mean summer, I mean Big lil season! If you’re anything like me the excitement of big lil season is unbearable. Whether you’re going to be a new big or you’re adding another little to the family this post will surely help you become the best big there is and make your relationship with your little one that will last forever.

Little gifts

Big lil season means lots of gifts and presents for your little to welcome her into the sorority and your fam. Maybe you don’t know what you should get her and need some helpful ideas and things she will love! I personally think hand made things are the best (and cheapest) way to spoil your little. You can customize them to her style and your sorority.

  • Canvas paintings
  • Stitched letters
  • Wooden letters
  • Your sorority’s mascot or symbol made of wood or trinket
  • Koozies
  • Croakies
  • Wine glass
  • Mason Jars
  • Monogrammed shirts
  • Sweatshirts
  • Tees
  • Hand me downs
  • Stuffed animals
  • picture frames
  • Cups/mugs
  • Hats
  • Hair ties
  • Buttons
  • Bags

How to make her feel at home

One of the most important things as a big is to be a mentor and supporter for your little. It is important for you to make her feel at home in your sorority and grow as a woman. This can easily be done by putting in time and effort to make her feel comfortable and this will also grow your relationship with her!

  • Ride with her to chapter
  • Eat dinner before or after chapter
  • Introduce her to you other friends in the sorority
  • Participate in philanthropy events with her
  • Invite her to get ready with you before mixers and events
  • Sit with her during sorority events or workshops
  • Invite her to go out with you and your friends
  • Offer to tutor her in a class
  • Have weekly family dinner dates (can even be potlucks!)
  • Text or call her to wish her good luck on tests, job interviews, dates, etc.
  • Be there for her when she’s upset and offer advice and comfort her

Hangout Ideas

We all want that awesome relationship with our little(s) that everyone else is jealous of and people write about on TSM, etc. But, to have a relationship like this you have to work at it! I have compiled a list of things/ways for you and your little to hangout or things to do together.

  • Library dates
  • Coffee dates
  • Craft together
  • Go swimming
  • Take a vacation together
  • Show her your hometown
  • Have a Netflix marathon
  • Go to a yoga class or the gym
  • Take a shopping trip
  • Have weekly meals together
  • Have a photoshoot together
  • Invite her to a social event

With big lil season just around the corner I hope this post gave you several ideas to create an awesome bond between you and your little. From experience I can say that putting the effort into creating a strong relationship with your little is worth it and before long you’ll have that close knit relationship others wish they had!

So, are you taking a little in the fall? Or maybe you’re rushing and you’ll soon have a big?

Till next time,


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1 year 5 months ago
Hi, I’m not asking about being a big, but I would like some tips for sorority rush. I’ll be doing it as a sophomore next fall. I’m friends and acquaintainces with some of the girls in it (there are only 2 at my small liberal arts school..greek life is not super common in my school). Last winter I tried to get into the other of the two sororities and to be honest I didn’t feel a huge connection and I didn’t end up getting a bid. That kind of made me hesitant about greek life and I’m worried I won’t… Read more »
1 year 5 months ago
The biggest tip I can give anyone going through recruitment is to be the best version of yourself. You’ll find the sorority that you click with the most and where you feel comfortable. Find the girls that you don’t feel forced when having a conversation with. Since you’ve gone through recruitment once you at least have an idea of what to expect, so use that to your advantage. Chapters are looking for girls that will fit in best with the majority of their members and potentially make their chapter stronger. Show them why you’re the best PNM and why they… Read more »
Elizabeth Gracie
Elizabeth Gracie
1 year 5 months ago

What’s a sorority? I don’t think they have them in England so I’m a tad confused haha

1 year 5 months ago

It is essential a organization centered out of universities for only women and usually have 50 to a couple hundred members and they offer leadership development, philanthropy events, ritual events, bonding events, and more!

Elizabeth Gracie
Elizabeth Gracie
1 year 5 months ago

Wow sounds great! Thanks for telling me, I understand it now! Haha