What Not to Say During Sorority Rush Week

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Sorority rush week, one of my favorite times of the year. For me and my chapter it means finding and choosing the best women to carry on our legacy here at my school. We want the best of the best girls, someone well rounded, positive, smart, sweet, and can hold her self to a higher standard. Sounds pretty hard to be right? No one is perfect and we surely know that, trust me we aren’t either! But during sorority rush week it’s highly important to stray away from certain topics so as not to offend, up set, or turn anyone away from you, so let’s talk about what’s not okay to say during sorority rush week.

  1. Boys. It’s okay if you’ve had a boyfriend for 4 years and you love him a lot, but the woman you’re talking to doesn’t want to know about him she wants to know more about you! Same goes for those of you who are a little more boy crazy, it’s not appropriate to ask sororities which fraternity men they hang out with the most or something along those lines, trust me you’ll get the chance to meet plenty of boys once you’re in greek life.
  2. Money. Yes it’s important to know pricing for the sorority you wish to join, however during a recruitment conversation is not the time to ask it. Most will post that type of information in a packet, booklet, or on their website.
  3. Politics/religion. This one should be a no brainer, because you don’t want to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and offend them. That won’t be a good time for either of you.
  4. Partying. Yes a joining a sorority means you’re joining a social organization, some of the members choose to enjoy their free time at parties or get togethers, but not everyone is into that scene. So stray away from party topics to avoid coming off as someone only interested in sororities for the parties.
  5. Negative Topics. This can get pretty broad but stay away from topics like bad grades, a horrible breakup, a girl you don’t like, bad mouthing other sororities, how you’re broke, etc.

Overall I suggest trying to get to know the woman you’re talking to, try to connect with her on a personal level so you too can get more out of her and what her organization has to offer. I know this may seem like a lot of things that are off limits but if you can remember to just keep things positive and make sure to present your self in the best light you won’t have any problems finding the right sorority for you.

Have more specific questions regarding sorority/college life? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

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Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Sorority Rush Week: Hair and Nails

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You’ve got your outfits all planned out and you’ve perfected your makeup, but there is still something missing, your hair and nails! You can tell a lot about a girl by how she takes care of hair and styles it. Not only that, but the way a woman takes care of her nails really shows her attention to detail. With sorority rush week just around the corner, I thought what better to share with you all than the best hair and nail tips for sorority recruitment!

 

HAIR:

Don’ts: Stay away from fancy up-dos like people wear in weddings, it isn’t necessary for these nights. DO NOT have frizzy hair if at all possible. Use whatever you need to keep your hair down, but sleek and shiny hair looks great on everyone. Greasy hair is a big no-no. Make sure you’re washing your hair and getting out any product, use dry shampoo if necessary. Grown out roots just don’t look good, get them touched up right before rush week so you won’t have to worry about it during this busy time! Try to stay clear from crazy and harsh colors all over you head. A colorful streak probably won’t be that bad or noticeable. Just be tasteful.

Dos: Hair spray will be your best friend, just makes sure you’re not using too much. I also suggest teasing your hair even just a little to add some extra volume and bounce to your hair style. Especially if you’re rushing a sorority in the south. Make sure to test out different hair styles to find the ones that look best on you! Keep your ends split free. You can never go wrong with simple curls or straight hair if you’re not the most talented at hair or don’t have the time.

 

NAILS:

Stray away from any dark colors like black. Light browns, light pink, and french manicures are the best colors to wear so that they match with every outfit. Do not have chipped nail polish or ragged nails. If you don’t like painting your nails at least trim and file your fingernails so they look uniform and clean. Save the long fake nails for another week and keep it on the more natural side or if necessary short acrylic nails. Also, don’t forget about your toes if you’re wearing sandals!

 

Sometimes we get so caught up in planning the perfect sorority rush week outfit we forget other important aspects of looking nice for sorority recruitment. Luckily for you, your hair and nails will now be on point and help you stand out from the other PNMs during recruitment.

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Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Sorority Rush Week: Makeup Tips & Tricks

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Most of us spend hours preparing the perfect outfit for sorority rush week and tend to forget about another important aspect of looking perfect for these nights, which is makeup! Knowing how to apply makeup properly and just the right amount can really brighten up your face and make you look your best. And when you look your best, you’ll be feeling your best. So let’s get into the tips and tricks to help you look your best during sorority rush week.

What Makeup Should You Wear:

Light foundation: Enough to cover any imperfections and even your skin tone out.

Concealer: Under your eyes and on any blemishes that need to be covered.

Powder: To give your face that matte finish without shine.

Bronzer: For contouring and adding color to your face.

Highlight: To highlight your cheek bones and open your eyes.

Blush: To add color to your cheeks and make you look fresh faced.

Eyeshadow: To add depth to your eyes and create a soft look.

Eyeliner: To make your eyes pop

Mascara: for opening your eyes up and looking away and refreshed.

 

Tips:

Blend out foundation around the neck and jawline and make sure that the color matches your skin tone perfectly. Go easy on any powder so that your face doesn’t look caked on. Don’t over do the bronzer or highlight, it should give a little depth to your face but not look so harsh. Concealer should be lighter than your foundation, but not too much. Don’t over do the eyes with dark eyeshadow colors and bright colors, choose natural browns and creams for the best look. Save the winged eyeliner for night outs and stick to natural eyeliner such as brown or black if needed. Waterproof mascara is the best so it won’t smudge and get under your eyes and on your eyelids. Be careful when applying mascara so that it doesn’t clump to much, try taking an old mascara wand and combing through them when you’re finished.

 

Makeup to Avoid:

The wrong colored foundation, bright lipstick colors like purple or green, orange bronzer is a no go, hold off on the glitter, and any harsh eyeshadow colors like blue, purple, red, etc.

 

Preference Night:

Preference night calls for a more serious look and feel to your outfit. Adding in a few darker eyeshadow colors is acceptable just to add more depth to your eyes, but a dark smokey look is still not ideal. Adding a slightly darker lip color is a nice change to your look, just apply it properly with a lip liner and make sure it looks nice with your skin tone.

 

I hope these makeup tips and tricks for sorority rush week made it easier for your to plan your complete look. Having the right makeup can completely change your face and look and will make all the difference in sorority recruitment.

Don’t forget to check out my what to wear for sorority rush week posts for the perfect outfits!

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Have more college related questions, e-mail me at [email protected]

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Choosing the Right Sorority

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Choosing the right sorority for you can be a little daunting and tough with so many good options out there! Each sorority offers so many different things to it’s members and finding the one that best matches with your personality can be difficult if you don’t know what to look for. Lucky for you I’ve broken it down into 4 simple questions to ask your self to help you choose the right sorority.

1. Do their values align with yours? Most sororities are committed to different things such as high grades, leadership experience, confidence, and more. You’ll want to take a look at their expectations for their members and see if you could hold your self to that standard. Don’t forget to take into consideration a sororities religious beliefs since most are centered around a certain faith.

2. Do you like the image that they give off? Could you see your self fitting into that image? If yes then that’s another thing to check off your list. It’s important to find a sorority with the image you want to perceive because once you join the sad and unfortunate truth is that people will group you in with that image and expect you to be like that which could be bad or good.

3. Do you like their reputation? Reputation is important when it comes to picking the sorority you want. Certain sororities are known for certain things on campus and it’s up to you to decide which you’d like to be a part of. People will begin to associate you with that reputation once you are a part of that sorority, so choose wisely.

4. Do you see your self fitting in/ do you feel comfortable here? I knew I wanted Kappa Delta each night because I felt comfortable talking to any girl I was matched with and they always made me feel welcome. You can just tell when you feel comfy in a certain place and I certainly did here. I could talk to the girls about anything and some I felt like were already my friends. You’ll know the feeling by preference night, I promise.

I hope these 4 simple questions will make your decision on choosing the right sorority an easy one. It can be tough when you’re faced with so many options and you’ve heard and seen so many different things. One last piece of advice is listen to your heart and go with what feels right and don’t force a sorority on yourself just because of who and what they are. Go where you feel at home!

Not sure how to prepare for sorority rush week? Check out my new Youtube video all about it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kIlTL_63wG8

Have more sorority related questions? E-mail me at [email protected]

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Sorority Resume: Everything You Need

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You’re all excited about rushing a sorority in the fall and you can’t wait to see what life is like once you’re in one, but first there are a few things that have to be done. Does your school require a resume? Never had to have one before? Don’t worry about it at all, because I’ve broken it down and created an example just for you so that you don’t have to worry anymore!

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When it comes to writing your resume, leave anything out! Put as much information as you can even that silly participation award you got in the 10th grade. It all counts and it all makes you stand out. Adding a picture at the top of your resume is also a good but optional idea.

One piece of advice I can give is do not lie on your resume, someone will find out and it won’t be good, not to mention embarrassing. Just be yourself and fill it out to the best of your ability.

I hope this post helped you and you’re on your way to making your perfect sorority resume.

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Have more questions about sorority recruitment check out some of my recent posts like 11 Things No One Told Me About Sorority Recruitment10 Tips for Preparing for Sorority Rush, and How to be the PNM Every Sorority Wants.

Still have more questions? E-mail me at [email protected]

Have an awesome day!

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

11 Things No One Told me About Sorority Recruitment

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Sorority recruitment is right around the corner. Maybe you feel prepared, maybe you’re so nervous you can’t stop thinking about it. Either way I’m here to help you prepare yourself for what is to come. I’ve decided today to share with you all 11 things no one told me about sorority recruitment that would have made all the difference during those long and exciting nights.

1. You’re bound to be dropped by a house you love. No it won’t be the end of the world, and yes you will still find the house you belong in. Try not to get too upset because there are plenty of other girls out there waiting to talk to you and get to know you!
2. Be nice to those girls in your recruitment group. Some will end up your sisters and others you’ll see all the time. Having these friends will make recruitment week more fun and less stressful, you’ll have girls to plan outfits with and hang out during the weeks prior to recruitment. Make friends now and you’ll be set for years to come.
3. Plan your outfits ahead of time. It can be stressful, but with all of your outfits planned you won’t have to think twice about what shoes to wear with what dress and so on the night of recruitment. Read my articles about what to wear during sorority recruitment week to help you brainstorm ideas!
4. Read my sorority rush week essentials so you’ll know exactly what to put in your purse during this week! It will save you a lot of time and effort.
5. Research the sororities before recruitment so you have a little background on each and you can focus on deeper questions plus you’ll look more interested if you already know more about them. Check their websites, instagram, tumblr, Facebook, and more!
6. Break in your new heels and flats! No one wants be uncomfortable the entire recruitment night. Trust blisters are no fun either!
7. Don’t forget to eat!!! You don’t want to pass out during one of the parties or feel sick when talking to the house you love the most!
8. Eye contact. If you want to stand  out make eye contact with everyone you talk to. It makes other feel important and you’ll be focusing on the conversation and not other things.
9. Don’t mention boys, alcohol, or partying!
10. Don’t act like someone you’re not. You don’t want to be a part of an organization of people you have to pretend to be like. You won’t have fun and you’ll be too stressed out all of the time
11. Take advantage of your Sorority Recruitment Counselors, they are there to help you and they have a lot of information and knowledge to help you make your decision.
I hope that these 11 things no one told me about sorority recruitment help you to prepare yourself and put yourself out there during recruitment week. I wish you all the best of luck during your recruitment week!
Have more questions about sorority recruitment in general? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]
Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

What to Wear: Sorority Rush Week Day 3

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Sorority rush week is almost over! In just two short days you’ll be running home to your new sorority, your future best friends and bridesmaids. Pretty exciting huh? Now that it’s the third day of rush week you may be a little lost on what to wear, how dressy your outfits should be? What outfits aren’t acceptable? No worries, because I’ve created three perfect outfits for the third day of sorority rush week!

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Outfit Number One:

On the third day you’ll be visiting less houses and sorority members will be looking for something in each PNM that makes them stand out from the rest. Wearing a bright colored dress will make it easy for someone to remember you and they’ll be more likely to remember why they love you so much! Pair a bright dress with a pair of simple and comfortable wedges. Adding a few accessories is ideal, just remember less is more.

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Outfit Number 2:

Staying with dresses I chose this yellow shift dress which is bright and stylish. Shift dresses are the perfect outfit of choice for rush week day three. Shift dresses are stylish and flattering and can be found in several stores now a days for decent prices! Check your local boutiques for cute patterns and styles that describe you. A few cute accessories are key for dressing up a simple dress. I love House of Harlow necklaces and Kendra Scott personally! P.S, those adorable wedges are from Tory Burch, I’ve seen them everywhere lately and can’t wait to get my hands on them.

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Outfit Number Three:

Depending on your school’s greek life you may have more strict rules for what you have to wear on day three, this is why I have included a dressier version for those of you that this applies to. A simple a-line dress is flattering on everyone and is still stylish. I couldn’t help but gush over the adorable pattern on this dress! Pairing an a-line dress with a pair of nude or black heels is the perfect way to dress up any dress. They add a more sophisticated and classy look. Again we are sticking with minimal accessories so as not to over do.

 

During day three of sorority rush week expect to be having more serious conversations and longer conversations at that. Now is the time to really get to know the sorority and what they are truly about and their beliefs. If you see someone in a party you remember talking to during a previous night don’t be afraid to wave and acknowledge them, it lets them know that you remember them and it will leave a great impression! Refrain from sandals, rompers, and shorts during the third day of sorority rush week. You should be wearing more business like or dressier clothing pieces.

Good luck on your third night of rush week, I know you’ll kill it!

Have more questions about sorority rush week or college in general? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

 

Lauren | Simple Southern Belle

Sorority Rush Week Essentials

It’s finally the day you’ve been waiting for and you’re more nervous than when you went on your first date, it’s the first day of sorority rush week. It’s almost time for you to leave so you grab your bag and realize you don’t know what you’ll need! To save you the trouble and worry I have created and easy list of items to keep in your purse or bag during those long days of rush week. Trust me you’ll thank me for this later!

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1. A Tote Bag, to carry all your essentials. Pick a bag that you don’t mind getting dirty or leaving on a floor!

2. Phone and Charger, a lot of recruitment days can be long and you’re phone might die. Make sure to keep it charged in case of emergencies.

3. Wallet, this is a little on the obvious side. You probably don’t want to be without your ID, student ID, and money.

4. Water and Snacks, please don’t forget to eat! I’ve seen too many girls pass out from eating, you will be standing and walking a lot! It’ll probably be hot too if you’re rushing in the fall.

5. Makeup, bring any makeup to have for touch ups between houses. I would bring your lipstick or chapstick, powder, and maybe an eyelash curler just to spruce yourself up.

6. Band-aids, chances are you’ll be wearing uncomfortable heels or walking a lot and you’re feet will probably get blisters. Keeping band-aids will help with this and you won’t be so focused on the pain!

7. Mints and Gum, some houses may offer food and you’ll want to freshen up in between parties. You’re going to be talking a lot and in close proximity of people and no one wants to talk to someone with bad breath!

8. Paper and Pen, these two things are great for writing notes about the different houses such as what you liked and didn’t like or people you talked to. This way when you go back to vote you’ll have something to reference.

 

Sorority rush week is an exciting time but it can be stressful as well if you’re not careful. Having these 8 items will surely make your experience more enjoyable and something you won’t ever forget!

Have more questions about sorority recruitment? Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]

Don’t forget to pin this post so you can save it for rush week!

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How to Be the PNM Every Sorority Wants

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It’s the week you’ve been waiting and preparing for for weeks or maybe even months, rush week. You’re sitting in a room full of girls just like you, PNMs, new and ready to join greek life. If you’re anything like me you’ll probably be nervous, but so excited you can hardly contain yourself. At the end of this long week you’ll finally know which sorority is your home for life, that in itself can be daunting and a little bit scary! You’re probably worried about what to say, what to wear, and even where to go, but no worries because I’ve created a list of tips and tools to make you the PNM every sorority will want.

1. Attitude

There is nothing that a sorority hates more than to see a girl walk into their room with a sour look on her face and a horrible attitude. I suggest going into each house with an open mind and positive attitude, put aside all the stereotypes and comments you’ve heard! It’s important to be respectful to each sorority because their organization is a huge part of their life and important to them. Who knows, you might even fall in love with a sorority you thought you’d never like.

2. Talking Topics

When a sorority is recruiting new women there are several things we look for in PNMs. The first being academics, we want to know if you’re interested in your studies and if you’re going to do well in school. After all we are in college and school is our main priority. Include in your conversations any important scholar groups or awards you were given for grades. Tell them your major and what classes you’re interested in taking and even future career ideas. At this point it looks good for a PNM to be interested in what kind of things we as an organization do to support sisters getting good grades and doing well in school. You could ask GPA requirements, study hours, study groups, tutoring, etc.

The second topic would be philanthropy and organizations. I love when PNMs were involved in their school and showed they cared about community service and being involved. Sororities are looking for women that are passionate about community service and will be interested in theirs as well. Finding a way to make a personal connection to an organization’s philanthropy will give you extra bonus points for sure. The more involved you are in school really shows an organization how well your time management is and leadership skills. Mention any leadership positions and other organizations as well.

Refrain from asking questions and talking about boys, partying, and drinking. Although social life is important, after all we are a social organization, sororities are looking for classy women who will represent their chapter in a good light not someone who everyone will be talking bad about in a week. It’s okay to ask questions about social events and working with other organizations.

Feel free to ask the sorority members any questions about their sisterhood, philanthropy, academics, and anything else. Try coming up with interesting and different questions to stand out from other PNMs. Such as, what is your favorite sisterhood memory? What is your favorite philanthropy event and why?

3. Attire

No one is requiring you go out and buy all new outfits and accessories for sorority recruitment. However, depending on how popular greek life is in your school will determine what you will need for rush week. I will be doing a later post all about sorority recruitment clothes and outfits, so don’t worry! I do recommend wearing clean, wrinkle-free, and stylish clothes. Make sure to wear clothes you’re comfortable in because sororities will be able to tell if you’re not comfortable. Plus you’ll be more confident in yourself if you love your outfit!

Remember the three B’s, NO boobs, butt, or belly. You are trying to impress women, not men. We don’t want to see your cleavage, booty or new belly ring. Save those outfits for the weekends. Stick to cute and conservative. You can’t go wrong.

Spend time practicing your makeup and hair a few weeks before rush week. Learn what colors and styles look best with your skin and hair type. Stick to simple styles because you will more than likely be rushing to and from different sorority houses and you’ll want to look good all night. Keep makeup simple, clean and fresh faced. If you’re not the best at hair or makeup have your friends or roommates help!

4. Posture

This is one of the most important pieces of advice I can give to any PNM. One of the most noticeable things in a PNM is their posture, how they are standing, are their arms crossed, are they making eye contact and listening to what I have to say? Keep your hands free and moving so you’re not tempted to cross them. Stand with your shoulders back, even if you’re tall (trust me I know the struggle) and be confident in yourself. Make eye contact, and nod and look attentive. It will make all the difference and make you stand out as a PNM.

5. Come Prepared

Before beginning rush week I strongly suggest checking out each sororities website, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook and anything else you can find to really get a feel for the organization. Sororities take the time to update these pages to show PNMs all about their members. Using these resources will help you learn a little about each sorority so you don’t have to waste time asking basic questions and can spend time asking more serious and interesting questions.

 

All of this information may be a lot to take in at once and may sound like a lot. I promise however that you will do great in recruitment and just remember to act like yourself. You want to join an organization who likes you for who you are so really get to know the women during this time.

Have any questions regarding recruitment, feel free to e-mail me at [email protected] or simply comment below!

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How To Be The Best Sorority Big

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Oh yeah, it’s about that time of year again, no I don’t mean summer, I mean Big lil season! If you’re anything like me the excitement of big lil season is unbearable. Whether you’re going to be a new big or you’re adding another little to the family this post will surely help you become the best big there is and make your relationship with your little one that will last forever.

Little gifts

Big lil season means lots of gifts and presents for your little to welcome her into the sorority and your fam. Maybe you don’t know what you should get her and need some helpful ideas and things she will love! I personally think hand made things are the best (and cheapest) way to spoil your little. You can customize them to her style and your sorority.

  • Canvas paintings
  • Stitched letters
  • Wooden letters
  • Your sorority’s mascot or symbol made of wood or trinket
  • Koozies
  • Croakies
  • Wine glass
  • Mason Jars
  • Monogrammed shirts
  • Sweatshirts
  • Tees
  • Hand me downs
  • Stuffed animals
  • picture frames
  • Cups/mugs
  • Hats
  • Hair ties
  • Buttons
  • Bags

How to make her feel at home

One of the most important things as a big is to be a mentor and supporter for your little. It is important for you to make her feel at home in your sorority and grow as a woman. This can easily be done by putting in time and effort to make her feel comfortable and this will also grow your relationship with her!

  • Ride with her to chapter
  • Eat dinner before or after chapter
  • Introduce her to you other friends in the sorority
  • Participate in philanthropy events with her
  • Invite her to get ready with you before mixers and events
  • Sit with her during sorority events or workshops
  • Invite her to go out with you and your friends
  • Offer to tutor her in a class
  • Have weekly family dinner dates (can even be potlucks!)
  • Text or call her to wish her good luck on tests, job interviews, dates, etc.
  • Be there for her when she’s upset and offer advice and comfort her

Hangout Ideas

We all want that awesome relationship with our little(s) that everyone else is jealous of and people write about on TSM, etc. But, to have a relationship like this you have to work at it! I have compiled a list of things/ways for you and your little to hangout or things to do together.

  • Library dates
  • Coffee dates
  • Craft together
  • Go swimming
  • Take a vacation together
  • Show her your hometown
  • Have a Netflix marathon
  • Go to a yoga class or the gym
  • Take a shopping trip
  • Have weekly meals together
  • Have a photoshoot together
  • Invite her to a social event

With big lil season just around the corner I hope this post gave you several ideas to create an awesome bond between you and your little. From experience I can say that putting the effort into creating a strong relationship with your little is worth it and before long you’ll have that close knit relationship others wish they had!

So, are you taking a little in the fall? Or maybe you’re rushing and you’ll soon have a big?

Till next time,

Lauren